A true apology is done through a consistent demonstration of improvements. You don’t think yourself out of something wrong, and you don’t talk yourself out of something wrong; you only walk yourself out of something wrong by changing your mind, speech, and deeds. I respect when someone apologizes privately, yet their disrespect was extremely public. Then, I love when a great apology is given with the same passion as how the disrespect was given; that is a genuine apology from a person who won’t do it again. A good apology is not only a changed behavior, but it is also an all-time reminder that that behavior should never be tolerated again. Jesus Christ was called The Lion of Judah and The Lamb of God. You should understand the assertive nature of Christ as you amplify the compassionate nature of Christ. He forgave those who repented and He disciplined those who were disrespecting God’s temple. I will always show you Grace until you consistently prove to me that I don’t have to because we are supposed to be where we are appreciated, not tolerated, when we are valuable and humbly aware of our God given value which we use to contribute to the enlightenment of the universal body of Christ. Everytime you find it hard to genuinely say sorry, then you will find it so hard to consistently take action on that word. Saying sorry is as important as taking action on that word. However, saying sorry and being sorry are two different things. Saying sorry is repetitive and inconsistent, while being sorry is thoughtful and progressive by making consistent change. Humility is to say sorry genuinely without hesitation and with a will power to make progressive change, so don’t let your ego hold you hostage for your own growth.
Being selfish and immature is when you are given a chance to autocorrect yourself from something you did wrong, and you choose not to because you still believe you are in the right, and you never take time to be self-accountable and acknowledge that you are wrong and apologize. Don’t be sorry for yourself, but be accountable of yourself. The sorrier you are for yourself, the more excuses and reasons you will give. And on the other hand, the more accountable you are of yourself, the more excellence and results you will give. Don’t look for pity and empathy and expect to be granted higher responsibilities; be more considerate and teachable, then you will exceed any given expectations. Remember this, everytime you take advantage of a good person for so long, they will eventually start treating you the way you choose to treat yourself. Then, don’t give the privilege to someone else to change who you really are because they refused to embrace whom they could be. God will never bless you with new upgraded blessings until you have fully embraced your new and upgraded version of your own self. Why would He bless you with a new life when your mind still praises your old lifestyle which never gave you anything greater than your old self?
Here are a few Holy Scriptures that will empower you to practice the above message:
23 So if you are presenting your offering at the altar, and while there you remember that your brother has something [such as a grievance or legitimate complaint] against you, 24 leave your offering there at the altar and go. First make peace with your brother, and then come and present your offering.
Matthew 5 : 23 – 24
16 Therefore, confess your sins to one another [your false steps, your offenses], and pray for one another, that you may be healed and restored. The heartfelt and persistent prayer of a righteous man (believer) can accomplish much [when put into action and made effective by God—it is dynamic and can have tremendous power].
James 5 : 16
8 Above all, have fervent and unfailing love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins [it overlooks unkindness and unselfishly seeks the best for others].
1 Peter 4 : 8
4 Love endures with patience and serenity, love is kind and thoughtful, and is not jealous or envious; love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant. 5 It is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not provoked [nor overly sensitive and easily angered]; it does not take into account a wrong endured. 6 It does not rejoice at injustice, but rejoices with the truth [when right and truth prevail]. 7 Love bears all things [regardless of what comes], believes all things [looking for the best in each one], hopes all things [remaining steadfast during difficult times], endures all things [without weakening].
1 Corinthians 13 : 4 – 7
12 Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers and overwhelms all transgressions [forgiving and overlooking another’s faults].
Proverbs 10 : 12
7 Beloved, let us [unselfishly] love and seek the best for one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves [others] is born of God and knows God [through personal experience].
1 John 4 : 7
11 for no one can lay a foundation other than the one which is [already] laid, which is Jesus Christ.
1 Corinthians 13 : 11
32 Be kind and helpful to one another, tender-hearted [compassionate, understanding], forgiving one another [readily and freely], just as God in Christ also forgave you.
Ephesians 4 : 32
19 So then, let us pursue [with enthusiasm] the things which make for peace and the building up of one another [things which lead to spiritual growth].
Romans 14 : 19
14 Continually pursue peace with everyone, and the sanctification without which no one will [ever] see the Lord.
Hebrews 12 : 14
3 Pay attention and always be on guard [looking out for one another]! If your brother sins and disregards God’s precepts, solemnly warn him; and if he repents and changes, forgive him. 4 “Even if he sins against you seven times a day, and returns to you seven times and says, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him [that is, give up resentment and consider the offense recalled and annulled].”
Luke 17 : 3 – 4
14 For if you forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins], your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others [nurturing your hurt and anger with the result that it interferes with your relationship with God], then your Father will not forgive your trespasses.
Matthew 6 : 14 – 15
17 ‘You are to say to Joseph, “I beg you, please forgive the transgression of your brothers and their sin, for they did you wrong.”’ Now, please forgive the transgression of the servants of the God of your father.” And Joseph wept when they spoke to him. 18 Then his brothers went and fell down before him [in confession]; then they said, “Behold, we are your servants (slaves).”
Genesis 50 : 17 – 18
