The best investment we can make is in friendships and relationships; that’s why we need to understand that, “show me your friends and I will show you who you really are”, or the one who misses wealth marries the wrong person [marries the wrong person misses wealth]. Mainly choose friends who look like your future more than your past. This way, the friendship becomes effortless because you are all going in the same direction and are all aware of it. Then, prioritize your Godly purpose, and everyone and everything will fall in the right place. Every person you call friend, if they don’t look like the future God is preparing for, then that is a wasted friendship. God will never give you friends who want to remain looking like your past, because then, what you thought was your inner circle, it was your cell and you were just inmates. And the moment you break free from the chain which used to attach you, you then realize that you have nothing else in common.
Friendship is a place of freedom, peace, and purpose where you can be called out with grace and given solutions, not judgements and negative criticism. It is also a place of creating a safe platform of being inspired to change without being forced to change because, “We are here for each other and in all seasons, you have me as your family, but you should also value friendships with a higher purpose “God first” than ourselves for the reciprocity to be genuinely productive.” A true friend is the one who holds you straight when you are down and pushes you to be the best when you are willing to be helped.
17 A friend loves at all times,
And a brother is born for adversity.Proverbs 17 : 17
24 The man of too many friends [chosen indiscriminately] will be broken in pieces and come to ruin,
But there is a [true, loving] friend who [is reliable and] sticks closer than a brother.Proverbs 18 : 24
Friendship and trust are built with time. But, when it comes to trust, that is a contract which needs to be renewed on a daily basis because trust will keep that friendship going stronger because trust is the reflection of being truthful. Be discerning of who should know about your life and if they deserve to deeply know you like that. Have a well selected inner circle which is beneficial to your purpose. Don’t try to make friends, just be serious with your divine purpose, and friends will come along. Only invest in friendships that are mutually beneficial with substantial growth and that don’t undervalue your importance for anyone: be discerning, remain selective, and stay real, honest, and truthful. You want genuine, caring, respectful, and loving friends? Then be that friend to others. Simple as that. People want better friends, but don’t want the work of becoming a better person. Having “better” friends is convicting; they challenge you, hold you accountable, and have boundaries. So, if you don’t want to be a better person, then you are not yet ready for “better” friends. Don’t pray for good friends or business partners; always mostly pray about being a good Godly purposeful friend and business partner. We want people who love us the way we are, yet not even two or three people can genuinely testify that the way you are has been a blessing to anyone. Then, first let God fix you before you want to force someone to love the version you also hate about yourself. If you become everyone’s friend first, then it will be your own enemy. Become God’s friend and your own friend first, then you will be the brother that a friend needs. Please God, not people: people are part of the problem, but God is The Only Solution to all problems.
